Welcome! I’m Sheila Kamara Hay.
I want you to know that childbirth can be one of the most transformative and potentially pleasurable experiences in a woman’s life.
Yes, you read that right- I’m talking about ENJOYING childbirth.
My goal is provide you with tools and resources so you can have an ecstatic experience birthing your child. Childbirth is a huge rite of passage in a woman’s life. Like most rites of passages, it may not be easy, but it can take you higher than you’ve ever been your entire life.
Let’s talk about the pleasure available in birth, shall we? There are so many levels! At its best, the birth experience provides a powerful blend of emotional empowerment, spiritual connection, and physical ecstasy.
This is not the typical birth you hear about or see depicted in the media. Those births don’t seem like much fun. Ecstatic Birth is everything our culture depicts birth to be turned inside out and upside down. (That’s why my logo looks like that.)
This type of birth is available to the fully conscious, fierce and well prepared woman.
When you give birth to your child, you are also giving birth to yourself as a mother. Learn to birth with the full force of your feminine wisdom and you will emerge mothering with the full force of your feminine wisdom. What a gift that is to you and your baby!
Ecstatic Birth is not about sacrificing for the good of your child. Most of us have got that move down. Ecstatic Birth is about valuing the nature of your experience along the way. How you feel has huge repercussions for your baby and for how you move into motherhood.
I want you to enjoy giving birth to your child. In order to do that, you have to train… like a marathon. You will be swimming upstream against all our cultural and religious messages (remember Eve?) and against our current societal constructs.
I learned that lesson the hard way.
The seeds of Ecstatic Birth were conceived years ago with my first pregnancy. I desired a birth that would leave me breathless and marveling at my body’s strength, wisdom, and capacity to bring forth life – but I had no idea how to get there. I was surrounded by love and encouraged to get the “best” doctor who would deliver me in the “best” hospital to stay “safe.” I listened, enrolled in a natural childbirth class, and wished upon a star.
My first birth was a lot more traumatic than ecstatic. It set into motion a string of heartbreaking events that shook my very foundation and forced me to re-evaluate how to operate in this world. Through that reconsideration, I learned to connect to the wisdom of my body and the importance of pleasure to my well-being. It was only after I had integrated these lessons that I was able to conceive again. That birth was my wake up call.
I decided that if I was ever going to give birth again, it had to be completely different. As I contemplated another pregnancy, I sought providers who shared my vision and I began to train with my mind, body, heart, and soul towards that vision. As a result, I experienced a beautiful, Zen birth. Postpartum, my body felt so good, so healthy. What took me months to recover from the first time took only hours, days the second time. I felt so strong, so beautiful, so alive, and thrilled with my femininity. There was more love and happiness flowing through me than I had ever experienced and I felt totally in tune with my sensual nature.
The third time I got pregnant, I knew my body was fully capable of giving birth without intervention, but I was curious if I could enjoy it. I spent the next nine months putting my attention there, researching and preparing in every way that I could imagine, to infuse pleasure into my birthing experience. I really enjoyed that birth. I was dancing with my contractions, dancing through them, really partying with the universe. When I was done, I kept saying to my husband, “Why don’t people know? Why didn’t I know that it could be this good?”
I felt called to tell everyone, to spread the word as best as I could. I loved watching women’s faces, their mouths agape as I shared my story all over Manhattan, my story a mere sliver in the spectrum of what is possible. I discovered that I wasn’t a fluke, that this is all teachable and learnable.
I’ve been sharing this information with women ever since, opening their minds to all that is possibly, holding their hands as they create their birth experiences, and providing them with tools and resources to train for pleasure in birth.
The Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions are my proudest creation. It is a digital program that features so many of my own teachers and guides. It covers every aspect of Ecstatic Birth preparation- body, mind and soul. It is everything I wish I had known before my first pregnancy.
I also offer free monthly trainings and share resources through my email list. Make sure you join to be kept in the loop.