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Having “the DREAM”

This is a pivotal moment in your life.

You have never been in this exact position before.. preparing for this birth of this baby.

Yet… you have been here before. You know this feeling.

You have been faced with the inner struggle of knowing what you really want and being afraid you can’t have it.

What if you fail? What if what has worked for other women won’t work for you? What if it’s just too good to be true?

The Fall of Man? I Think Not.

There is something that deeply troubles me about our legacy….

That moment when a baby is born and a mother emerges is magical, sacred.. POWERFUL.. The highest of highs. Right?

On a personal level, for both parents, it is one of the major milestones of life. For the baby, it is literally LIFE itself.

On a global level, this moment ushers in the next generation of humanity.

It is DIVINE- the moment creation is actualized.

The FUTURE is literally being BORN.

A pivotal EXTRAordinary moment on the planet…

and yet our legacy declares that THIS is the moment that we will PUNISH WOMEN FOR THEIR SINS AGAINST MAN.

WHAAAAAaaaaaaaaat?

The View from the Other Side

I’d like to introduce you to Ekaterina Baranova, a doula and childbirth educator, who just completed her first round of the Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training Program (graduates are able to repeat the training as often as they are inspired).

Ekaterina has spent the last year immersed in the content, practice and community of PLEASURE, actively contemplating and practicing bringing it into the world of birth.

You will see, from the blog she has written here, so many of the different pieces I’ve highlighted at play:

The tools and practices you can bring into birth to have more fun, and support the flow of labor and delivery
The invaluable nature of being immersed in a like-minded community
The elevation of consciousness about the body and the interconnected nature of life, birth and sex
Opening to the flow of pleasure within via the body practices
The shift from thinking states to FEELING states to tap into our intuitive and primal nature
The power of being present in the body
The transformation in supporting others from being draining to nourishing
Bringing everything you learn in this training into the world with your unique flavor
Elevating the birthing culture through your pleasure

And so much more..  I’ll let her tell you herself!

Countering Depletion

If you are a woman living on this planet, it is likely that you are familiar with the sensation of depletion, of having given everything you have to give (and more) with little left for yourself.

Biologically women are wired as nurturers, but culturally we are not trained how to take on that role in a way that feels sustainable.

Mothers are taught to be self-sacrificing and put their kids first.
Practitioners are taught to put their clients needs first.

The problem with this model is that eventually we get depleted and hit a point of utter exhaustion. And at that point we are of no use to anyone, not even ourselves.

A simple strategy to elevate your birth experience

Childbirth can be deeply empowering, pleasurable, ecstatic and even orgasmic.

Yet most women experience the opposite.

There is a HUGE  gap between the possibility and the reality.

The gap is not whether or not Ecstatic Births actually exist.

The gap is in how we are raised, our relationships to our bodies, the structures of training and support that exist (or not) for women, the healthcare system, the legal system and so much more.

I see so so many women judging themselves harshly or feeling down in the dumps for not “achieving” this ideal.

That is the heart of the matter right there–

Ecstatic Birth is an IDEAL and ideals are not a measure by which to judge ourselves, but a source of inspiration, elevation.

While bringing the image of the picture perfect birth you have in your mind into reality is incredibly difficult,  (when does life ever conform perfectly to our ideals?) elevating your experience of birth is astoundingly simple.

Let me show you what I mean via this fool-proof 3 step strategy: