Since l began offering my 20 minute complimentary consults, I have had the privilege of speaking with quite a few women at various stages of expectant motherhood, some pregnant and others hoping to be soon.
The overwhelming majority of calls I get are from mamas who are in what I call the “eeeek” zone, late 3rd trimester and full of fear.
At such a late stage in pregnancy it may feel like it is too late to undertake any truly transformational birth preparation, but in reality there are two major shifts that can make a huge difference taking her from “eeek” to positive anticipation of her baby’s birth- disarming her fears and using pleasure as a comfort tool.
Sensuality is a powerful tool women can use to enhance their experience during labor and birth. Melting into her sensual nature allows a birthing woman to fully relax, stay present, and enjoy the process of labor and delivery.
Giving birth is the culmination of the sexual act. You birth with all of your sexual organs, stimulating and flooding them with sensation. Childbirth at its best also mirrors the trance states of arousal and orgasm. Melting into her sensuality heightens a woman’s experience of pleasure during childbirth, much like it does during sex.
Sensuality at its essence is a practice, a way of experiencing life. What if you were to treat your birth like the sensual ride of your life? What would that mean? What would your birth prep look like? Read on to learn specifically about sensuality as an aspect of preparation for an Ecstatic Birth.
Birthing our creative projects is similar to birthing our babies in that both can challenge us and take us places we have never been before. We can come through to the other side having had an experience of intense grueling difficulty or an experience of intense empowerment and rapture. The difference between the two is rarely the objective facts of the birth, but our subjective experience of it.
In my work helping women birth their babies with pleasure, I have found that a woman who prepares to have an Ecstatic Birth brings this wisdom into her mothering and all aspects of her life.
Used consciously the underlying principles of Ecstatic Birth can enable us to birth our metaphorical babies through pleasure as well.
This week on the blog I am excited to introduce you to a very special woman, Dr. Peta Elmer. I met Peta a few years back when she joined me for my sensual expansion study group and then took the leap with me when I launched my first ever Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training.
Peta practices Chinese medicine in Australia and is as passionate about supporting women in pleasurable birth as I am. She is actively involved in our budding community of Ecstatic Birth practitioners (graduates are invited back into subsequent trainings each year) and consistently brings amazing insights into our work and training.
One of the most remarkable aspects of my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training is the unique zones of genius each woman brings forth, building and expanding our collective wisdom around Ecstatic Birth.
(Birthworkers, click here for more info and to join my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training beginning June 13th.)
In this blog post, Peta illustrates how the constriction of sexual energy throughout a woman’s life is a root cause of the sensation of pain in birth and shares several suggestions on how to support the flow of Qi for pleasurable birthing.
It is an honor to share her wisdom with you! Enjoy her as I do…
Wherever you are in the world the supermoon is shining bright on you at night. Full moons illuminate our darkness both tangibly and metaphorically.
There is a whole lot of darkness currently being illuminated on our planet, whatever your political orientation. So many intense patterns, thoughts, emotions coming to the surface triggered by the elections here in the US.
The full moon is a great time to truly see what has been hiding in the darkness and to set the intention to let go of those things that aren’t serving you.
Identify them, write them down, throw them in the trash (or rip or burn them) and as the moon wanes, feel them energetically wash away from your life.
My concern today, my tender tribe of mamas and birthworkers, is your bodies. How are they feeling?
I personally have been struggling with an overwhelming sense of violation, a creeping feeling of unease, a brimming anger that the female body continues to be treated so disrespectfully, and intense grief that so many people were able to make light or overlook this when they cast their votes. Different people hold different things as sacred.
I hold the female body as sacred, as the portal through which new life comes into this world.
A feeling of safety in the body is one of the cornerstones of Ecstatic Birth prep, so I am wondering…
How is your body feeling?
…separate and distinct from how your mind is processing.