The day your baby is born is one of the most momentous days of your life. Childbirth can be one of the most transformative ecstatic experiences in a woman’s life.
Unfortunately, that is not the typical experience our society is serving up in labor and delivery. Most women emerge from childbirth in a haze, many of them unconscious victims of trauma (as I was). We accept this because that is what we are taught childbirth is meant to be, culturally, religiously, and societally. If we make the same choices as everyone around us, this is what we will usually get.
To have a different experience, a woman must be willing to make different choices, to prepare with her mind, body and soul in a different direction. Ecstatic Births are not the norm (yet) and so it requires a certain ferocity to forge a different path.
This week on the blog I am excited to introduce you to a very special woman, Dr. Peta Elmer. I met Peta a few years back when she joined me for my sensual expansion study group and then took the leap with me when I launched my first ever Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training.
Peta practices Chinese medicine in Australia and is as passionate about supporting women in pleasurable birth as I am. She is actively involved in our budding community of Ecstatic Birth practitioners (graduates are invited back into subsequent trainings each year) and consistently brings amazing insights into our work and training.
One of the most remarkable aspects of my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training is the unique zones of genius each woman brings forth, building and expanding our collective wisdom around Ecstatic Birth.
(Birthworkers, click here for more info and to join my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training beginning June 13th.)
In this blog post, Peta illustrates how the constriction of sexual energy throughout a woman’s life is a root cause of the sensation of pain in birth and shares several suggestions on how to support the flow of Qi for pleasurable birthing.
It is an honor to share her wisdom with you! Enjoy her as I do…
When thinking about the idea of enjoying childbirth, there is nothing more intriguing… and hexing than the idea of an orgasmic birth. We are the children of Eve, or, at least, we have been brought up on that story. How could childbirth ever be physically pleasurable? Emotionally maybe, spiritually definitely, but physically?
If you take a moment, however, to really think about the body parts involved in birth- well, it isn’t as far of a reach as you might have thought, right?
The idea of orgasms and birth coinciding may take a bit of cultural reconditioning, but on a physical level they are quite complementary. There are two ways to think about it.
Orgasm as a birth tool.
Orgasm as a spontaneous part of the birthing process.
The first is relatively straightforward.
Orgasms can be used to jump start labor. They can be used to move a sluggish labor along. They can also, perhaps most intriguingly, be used to manage labor. How?
Orgasms are a powerful natural pain killer, more powerful than some of the strongest drugs out there. Don’t believe me? Google it. You will be flooded with all the research and stats.
The second- the idea of a spontaneous orgasmic birth is more slippery.
We just wrapped up the Orgasmic Birth Virtual Conference! Were you able to join us?
My talk was about “Unleashing the Ecstasy in Birth” and I had the pleasure of speaking alongside my heroines, mentors, friends, and colleagues as we discussed transforming pregnancy, birth, and mothering to a positive, empowering, and pleasure-full experience.
It was groundbreaking, revolutionary and put forth a whole new paradigm of welcoming the next generation.
It is not too late. If you weren’t able to catch it live, you can purchase the entire experience here. Or consider doing a trial membership of En*theos’s learning academy. You will get access to the entire Orgasmic Birth Virtual Conference as well as their entire library of incredible wisdom, including several of my classes, and it only costs $10/month if you decide to stay on past the trial period.