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Orgasms and Birth

When thinking about the idea of enjoying childbirth, there is nothing more intriguing… and hexing than the idea of an orgasmic birth. We are the children of Eve, or, at least, we have been brought up on that story. How could childbirth ever be physically pleasurable? Emotionally maybe, spiritually definitely, but physically?

If you take a moment, however, to really think about the body parts involved in birth- well, it isn’t as far of a reach as you might have thought, right?

The idea of orgasms and birth coinciding may take a bit of cultural reconditioning, but on a physical level they are quite complementary. There are two ways to think about it.

Orgasm as a birth tool.
Orgasm as a spontaneous part of the birthing process.

The first is relatively straightforward.
Orgasms can be used to jump start labor. They can be used to move a sluggish labor along. They can also, perhaps most intriguingly, be used to manage labor. How?
Orgasms are a powerful natural pain killer, more powerful than some of the strongest drugs out there. Don’t believe me? Google it. You will be flooded with all the research and stats.

The second- the idea of a spontaneous orgasmic birth is more slippery.

Epidurals and Ecstasy?

One of the questions I get asked most often when I tell people about Ecstatic Birth is-

“Can you do this with an Epidural?”

The short answer is “Yes.”

The long answer involves a discussion around consciousness and nerve endings.

Ecstasy is a state of rapture that includes emotional, physical, and spiritual components. In childbirth, this is most likely when a woman operates from a place of consciousness and empowerment.

This can definitely include the decision to allow interventions as long as a woman is making that decision from a fully informed perspective, eyes wide open and connected to her own personal truth and inner wisdom. (Like in this story about an ecstatic c-section)

Untap your full pleasure potential

I am convinced that there is one thing that every woman can do to infinitely increase her pleasure in birth (and life!) –

Learn how to melt into a rolling, endless, full body orgasm…whenever she wants.

What do orgasms and childbirth have in common? Almost everything!

  • Same anatomy
  • Same ideal conditions
  • Same trance states
  • Same hormonal cocktails released

This might seem ironic, since orgasms and birth are typically seen as opposite ends of the pain/pleasure spectrum. However, pain and pleasure travel along the same neural pathways. They are closer in sensation than you may realize.

The Yin of Birth

This year I gifted myself the right to have summer vacation. It was a choice born from my anxiety, the pressure that I was putting on myself to be productive. So, just for fun, I threw it all out the window and told myself that for the summer I didn’t have to “do” and that I could just “be.”

Well, looking back, it is interesting for me to notice that it was a summer full of interesting conversations, connections, and events. Productive without a doubt (and without the pressure and anxiety.)

Being the birth junkie that I am, one of my great loves is seeing how life and birth mirror each other so fully.

Women are always asking me- how is it possible to have pleasure in childbirth? What do they have to “do” to have an ecstatic birth?

Well, truth is that there is so much that one can do to prepare…, but a whole lot of that involves learning how to be, and how to receive.

The Yin and Yang of our world is off balance. Yin, the feminine energy, the receptive energy of “being” is generally overwhelmed by Yang, the active masculine energy of “doing.”

It is the balance of the two that allows for harmony and that opens the door for pleasure.

Train for Pleasure

Pregnancy was an incredible, awe-inspiring experience for me.

I loved that my body was gestating a new life. I loved that it knew what to do, that it was tapping into a primal template and that I had to do very little in conscious support.

Pregnancy was an incredible, awe-inspiring experience for me.

I loved that my body was gestating a new life. I loved that it knew what to do, that it was tapping into a primal template and that I had to do very little in conscious support.

I wanted to feel that same sense of super-humaness with my birth experience. To feel that primal force move through my body and guide it to birth. The problem was, short of taking a natural childbirth class, I didn’t know how to prepare for that.

I had no idea about optimal birthing conditions.

I underestimated the role of support.

I misunderstood the degree of surrender required.

I was in the dark about the landscape of hospital vs. homebirth.

I didn’t know how to connect to my body and its wisdom.

I had no clue pleasure even had a place at the table of birth.