One of the many, overflowing gifts that birth has given me is a sense of my own autonomy.
Navigating my options in preparation for my first birth, I prioritized everyone’s opinions and desires over my own. That didn’t play out very well.
I experienced a birth trauma that carried over into an inability to conceive and carry a second child.
I looked everywhere for answers and I found none, until I was encouraged to look within.
I’m excited to share with you the Conversation to Transform Birth for this week. In many ways this woman is the embodiment and culmination of my visions for Ecstatic Birth.
Let me explain…
14 years ago I was fiercely preparing for the birth of my 2nd child learning everything I possibly could about the body and natural birth. At the same time I was chest deep in the study of PLEASURE as both a student and writer at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts in NYC.
The moment that I realized the language of sensual and orgasmic expansion and the language of natural birth were one and the same I got a full body rush of energy and I knew I was onto something BIG.
These days it is waaay too easy to knock my fierce warrior self to her knees.
So if you are feeling like… “PLEASURE?!?! What’s the point of PLEASURE in the midst of all that is going on….?!” I get it. I get it.
Even on the best of days it can feel like a stretch to reach for pleasure.
And in the birthing room??? Seriously?!? Amidst all the intensity.. who can think about PLEASURE?!?!
One of my favorite (and most effective tools) is literally the LAST thing I feel like doing, especially in moments of intensity: DANCE
With self-quarantine and social distancing mandates, our access to the physical is suddenly limited.
Teaching Ecstatic Birth to all kinds of practitioners, I have noticed that often there is an unnecessary boundary between energy work and body work.
While we are all quite aware that there is an interplay between our energy body and our physical body, most modalities of support focus on one or the other.
I’ve never really thought about it in quite this way before, but… Ecstatic Birth preparation integrates both. After all orgasmic energy is deeply felt in the body!
So what happens when one of your senses is suddenly restricted? You begin to develop your other senses!!
This is what is happening right now all over the planet…
These are strange and uncertain times indeed, but one thing remains steady:
Having a doula dramatically transforms and elevates your experience of birth. It has famously been said:
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John Kennell
So what now with social distancing and strict limits on who can enter a hospital birthing room?
It is true now more than ever.
Virtual birth support, while not ideal, is still effective and powerful.
Releasing fear and finding FLOW is a central theme in Birth on the best of days.
Now.. it is an imperative for us ALL.
We are all currently living in an active birthing field as everything around us is in a state of re-birth:
The “normalcy” of our day to day lives
How we relate and interact with other people
Our SYSTEMS.. from the economic to the medical
The environment, the planet we live on
This is the most widespread and powerful birthing field most of us have ever experienced in our lifetimes.
And we must do as we do in the birthing room–Put our attention on our BODIES to:
Actively release FEAR
Integrate our comfort measures,
Consciously bring OXYTOCIN flow into the body.
I can’t think of a more poignant shift to practice right now.
Intense times for sure. I’m thinking of all our pregnant women and what it must feel like to be gestating life at this time.
The last thing we want is to be bathing our unborn children in stress and fear hormones and yet, here we are amidst a global pandemic.
I know this is quickly becoming a challenging financial period for many, so I am offering a PAY WHAT YOU CAN rate for OBaby!, my signature training for expectant mothers.
I honestly can’t think of anything better than flooding your body with energy, love, pleasure and divine flow as we navigate the pandemic. This is good for you and good for your Baby.
Childbirth can be INTENSE!
Ecstatic Birth is not about denying that intensity… or even numbing it or avoiding it in order to have a great experience.
Ecstatic Birth is a full bodied YES to the intensity and that YES is key to alchemizing the sensations of labor from pain to pleasure.
A HUGE part of this is understanding our anatomy and the interconnections between birth and sex.
An even bigger part is honoring our sexuality and the design of our bodies.
Dishonoring the design of our bodies = PAIN
Understanding and honoring our sexuality and our design opens the doorway to bliss, pleasure, ecstasy, orgasm… all the good stuff!
This conversation with Midwife, Robin Illian blows even the most experienced birth workers away!!!
Why? Robin shares a little known fact about feminine anatomy that has the potential to make even the most intense moments in labor pleasurable!
We received such a powerful transmission from Lisa Weinstein who so bravely and boldly shared her birth experiences with us.
Lisa gave potent words and feelings to the layers of Ecstasy and Orgasmic pleasure possible in childbirth.
If you have any doubt….
Curious how it is possible…
Want to understand what the heck I mean…
PLEASE WATCH THIS!!!
No matter how tired, overwhelmed or frustrated you may feel, Ecstasy is within you.
I have seen it time and time again with my clients–
An activation occurs through consistent, devoted body connection.
✨What feels impossible becomes possible…
✨Your soul’s purpose ignites!
✨You become more effective while “grinding” less.
✨You connect with your feminine power, that witchy magic that has the universe conspiring in your favor each step of the way.
Whether you are pregnant, a perinatal professional or a woman ready for re-Birth, your body is HUNGRY for this.
It is time for a radical change, a different way of being than what society is offering you…
A way that honors your body, your feminine design, your process, your FLOW…