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Childbirth is Different Now

The full anatomy of the clitoris wasn’t explored until 1998 with discoveries emerging as recently as 2005. Our understanding of this misunderstood part of our feminine selves is less than 20 years old.Can you see what this means?

Can you see what this means?

Not a single childbearing woman today in the US had access to truly understanding the depth and breadth of her pleasure anatomy when she was growing up.

The point, ladies, is that even though women have been birthing since the beginning of time, the landscape is now completely different.  The consciousness you grew up with which did not value your experience or your pleasure or the role of pleasure in your sexual birthing body is OUTDATED.

We know more about the clitoris now than ever before and here is the crux of it– it is not a “bonus” or side show in any way, a little button to play with for kicks.

It is an integral part of our female reproductive anatomy that goes DEEP into and surrounds our feminine centers. This has MASSIVE repercussions for childbirth that begin with this simple idea:

Pleasure is not a reward for a job well done, but a vital component of doing a something well.

Most women have no concept that pleasure isn’t just a possible “bonus” in the birthing process (or even that!), but that it is actually an integral part…

At a time, when Lamaze International reports less women than ever before are taking childbirth ed…. it is MOST critical and GAME CHANGING.

Never before have there been SO MANY opportunities to raise your consciousness and learn about the glory and pleasure and ecstasy available to you in your body during birth or otherwise!

How does your Qi flow?

This week on the blog I am excited to introduce you to a very special woman, Dr. Peta Elmer. I met Peta a few years back when she joined me for my sensual expansion study group and then took the leap with me when I launched my first ever Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training.

Peta practices Chinese medicine in Australia and is as passionate about supporting women in pleasurable birth as I am. She is actively involved in our budding community of Ecstatic Birth practitioners (graduates are invited back into subsequent trainings each year) and consistently brings amazing insights into our work and training.

One of the most remarkable aspects of my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training is the unique zones of genius each woman brings forth, building and expanding our collective wisdom around Ecstatic Birth.

(Birthworkers, click here for more info and to join my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training beginning June 13th.)

In this blog post, Peta illustrates how the constriction of sexual energy throughout a woman’s life is a root cause of the sensation of pain in birth and shares several suggestions on how to support the flow of Qi for pleasurable birthing.

It is an honor to share her wisdom with you! Enjoy her as I do…

Feeling heavy?

So many of the women I speak to these days feel triggered, depressed, angry, tired, numb or heavy.  The first thing you need to know is that right now upheaval is the norm rather than the exception. What is happening on a universal level is a stirring, a rising in energy which is bringing up old patterns to be released as we usher in a new age of being.

In the process of that release we are seeing the demons of our life, our society and culture flash before our eyes and nowhere is this more apparent than in the current election in the US. Consciously or unconsciously that can be very difficult to watch and weighs on each of us, especially women.

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The word objectification has been thrown around for eons in relation to women. Let’s really take a look at that.. Treating a woman as an object… , a woman’s body as a “thing” to be owned, manipulated  or governed.

There are the obvious ways– the ones we can readily identify and have been taught to look out for… beauty pageants, advertising, pornography, the seemingly endless fight over abortion, sex slavery….

Then there are the infinite more subtle ways in which we have been trained, in which we or our loved ones, despite the best of intentions, may be complicit.

Birth Practitioners

Practitioners, would you like to integrate Ecstatic Birth preparation into the work you do with your clients?

Birthing with pain is easy. We already know how to do that.

Birthing with PLEASURE is a whole new paradigm of childbirth.

Ecstatic Birth requires an intuitive sense that it is possible and a ferocity to stand for something different.

It also requires a whole lot of support. Expectant Mamas are looking for this support.
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Registration is now open for the 2017 Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training Program!

I want more women to know and learn and open to the possibility of birthing with pleasure, more women than I can work with one on one.

I want to enable you, who are already working with expectant mamas, to share this information, these tools, these resources with them.

The Missing Link

This year my son received sex ed in his 7th grade health class for the first time. Much to his mortification, I asked him many questions about what he was being taught about the female anatomy. Unfortunately, but not surprising, while boys were taught about ejaculation and how to put on condoms, among other things, the girls only received half the story about their bodies– they learned about ovulation, periods, and pregnancy.

While they did clarify proper usage of vulva vs. vagina, the class did not even begin to name the outer and inner anatomy of the vulva. The word clitoris was never mentioned, much less the vestibular bulbs (pound for pound as much erectile tissues as men) or any conversation about the pleasure centers of the female reproductive systems.

I mentioned this to a fellow mom and she said, “most people would be happy about that.” Ouch.