As we look forward to the new year many of us are dreaming about what we would like to create in 2019.
The very act of being alive is a constant flow of creation, but this marker in time gives us the inspiration to consider our dreams consciously.
What is it that you would like to bring into this world in 2019? A baby? A relationship? A creative project? A new version of you?
The reason so many of us struggle to create our dreams is the same reason so many women suffer in birth.
We are acting despite our design, rather than in the flow of it.
I have a unique perspective when it comes to birthing with PLEASURE and here is what I have found–
The process of preparing to birth with pleasure is a reclamation of the divine feminine within each of us.
Learning to birth our babies with pleasure requires us to understand and honor our feminine design, move our energy from our heads into our bodies, and trust deeply the wisdom found in our feeling space.
Whew… that is no small thing. In fact it is the biggest thing there is–
It is the embodiment of the rising feminine on the planet!
It is our connection to our fierce feminine power!
Nature has provided us this blueprint, the Feminine Cycle of Creation, to birth all our creations in pleasure.
Ever beat up on yourself for not showing up the way you thought you “should”?
I know I have.
I am a classic introvert.
I need a whole lot of time to myself to feel nourished.
I’m pretty quiet by nature.
And I would rather be real with one person over a cup of tea than put on a smile and go to a party.
Growing up that had a huge WRONG label written all over it.
My organic way of being challenged my parents, triggered strangers, and had me expending all kinds of energy to become “RIGHT” by societal standards.
It was exhausting and soul crushing.
One of my core journeys has been to get right with myself and I have, in a large part thanks to increased information, research and activism on the topic. (Thank you Susan Cain!).
Learning about my design has been pivotal in being able to truly honor and approve of myself.
It has released my energy to create and contribute in ways that feel amazing to me.
(Me, soaking in the love of our oldest trees at Sequoia National Park)
The basis of supporting women and practitioners in Ecstatic Birth is getting in alignment with the design of the female body in birth and preparing for childbirth from that place.
This work has revealed a massive layer of “WRONGNESS” that women have internalized due to…
living in a feminine body in a world that is designed and optimized for masculine ways of being.
This extends waaaaay beyond childbirth.
It touches every aspect of our lives.
It affects how we show up and how we create (no pain no gain!).
It affects our energy levels (anyone depleted?)
And ultimately it affects how we feel about ourselves (Wrong! Not good enough…)
How often do you experience ecstasy?
Is it enough for you?
Or do you want MORE?
(Most of us want MORE.. special invitation below if that is you!)
The experience of true ecstasy is deeply nourishing but it is also quite elusive.
The truth is it isn’t that hard to locate ecstasy. We have just been looking in all the wrong places.
The place where ecstasy lives is the place that you have been conditioned to ignore.
(Ever ignored your need to pee because you were “busy?”… Yup, me too)
We have been trained to live in our heads while ecstasy lives in our BODIES.
When I was a little girl, I knew I was special and that I had come here for a reason.
I know I’m not alone here.
I know that you feel this way too… (or used to).
This is not unusual or arrogant, but this is what is REAL.
We are all special and we have all come here for a very profound reason: to BE and EXPRESS ourselves fully.
This is particularly relevant NOW, at a time when many of us are wondering–how SHOULD we show up and be the change we want to see in the world???
And that Q right there is precisely the problem. There is no SHOULD.
Should implies a disconnection between you and yourself, an evaluation of you, your inner landscape, your feelings, your actions from outside of yourself.
Just like there is no place you SHOULD give birth. There is no way you SHOULD give birth… There is no way that you SHOULD show up in this lifetime.
There is only the right way for YOU.
Have you ever struggled to bring your dreams into reality, wondering over and over again… “What is wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I just….?”
(Artwork by Katariina Agnes Fagering)
I know this feeling SO well. And I’ve also known the opposite.. the feeling that NOTHING can stop me, NOTHING can stand in my way of bringing my dream to reality.
Birth has been my biggest teacher, the gateway through which I have come to understand the source of my feminine power.