This coming Monday, I’ll be teaching a live-stream class online on changing our paradigm of birth. This class is hosted by en*theos a fabulous, progressive, online learning academy. This is a huge opportunity to share my voice with a wider audience and I’m excited about it, but yesterday I had a total meltdown.
I’ve never done this before. I’m a writer, not a speaker. I don’t “do” video. I don’t like to be seen.
After I finished ranting to anyone who would listen… I had an epiphany. This is a birth. I am birthing a whole new version of myself and I should prepare myself accordingly. I’ve decided to use everything I know about preparing for birth to guide me.
As creative beings we are birthing all the time. Our creative babies can challenge us just as much if not more than our physical ones. Just like in childbirth, fears come up along the way and clearing them is an opportunity for huge growth and healing.
Read on for my protocol for dealing with fear….
We are so lucky to live in a time where there so much information about childbirth right at our fingertips and more and more emerges each day. There are so many books, dvds, live classes, online trainings… It is virtually impossible to do them all. How do we choose?
The key, I believe, is developing a strong relationship with your inner wisdom. It is a very different voice than that of your mind. Your inner wisdom has access to all of you, your life experiences, your hopes, dreams, and fears.
Learning to tap into your inner wisdom is one of three essential ingredients to preparing for an Ecstatic Birth. I will be talking more about this and sharing the other two essential ingredients in tomorrow’s training call and Q&A. You can register for this complimentary training here: http://ecstatic-birth.com/free-training/
For those of us living in the western world, it can be so easy to get lost in our abundance. We are surrounded by good and plenty. Learning to navigate all of that with ease is essential if we are going to stay in our pleasure. I believe learning to be guided by our inner wisdom is the next stage of our evolution as people.
One of the questions I get asked most often when I tell people about Ecstatic Birth is-
“Can you do this with an Epidural?”
The short answer is “Yes.”
The long answer involves a discussion around consciousness and nerve endings.
Ecstasy is a state of rapture that includes emotional, physical, and spiritual components. In childbirth, this is most likely when a woman operates from a place of consciousness and empowerment.
This can definitely include the decision to allow interventions as long as a woman is making that decision from a fully informed perspective, eyes wide open and connected to her own personal truth and inner wisdom. (Like in this story about an ecstatic c-section)
I am convinced that there is one thing that every woman can do to infinitely increase her pleasure in birth (and life!) –
Learn how to melt into a rolling, endless, full body orgasm…whenever she wants.
What do orgasms and childbirth have in common? Almost everything!
- Same anatomy
- Same ideal conditions
- Same trance states
- Same hormonal cocktails released
This might seem ironic, since orgasms and birth are typically seen as opposite ends of the pain/pleasure spectrum. However, pain and pleasure travel along the same neural pathways. They are closer in sensation than you may realize.
This year I gifted myself the right to have summer vacation. It was a choice born from my anxiety, the pressure that I was putting on myself to be productive. So, just for fun, I threw it all out the window and told myself that for the summer I didn’t have to “do” and that I could just “be.”
Well, looking back, it is interesting for me to notice that it was a summer full of interesting conversations, connections, and events. Productive without a doubt (and without the pressure and anxiety.)
Being the birth junkie that I am, one of my great loves is seeing how life and birth mirror each other so fully.
Women are always asking me- how is it possible to have pleasure in childbirth? What do they have to “do” to have an ecstatic birth?
Well, truth is that there is so much that one can do to prepare…, but a whole lot of that involves learning how to be, and how to receive.
The Yin and Yang of our world is off balance. Yin, the feminine energy, the receptive energy of “being” is generally overwhelmed by Yang, the active masculine energy of “doing.”
It is the balance of the two that allows for harmony and that opens the door for pleasure.