Wow what a phenomena 50 Shades has brought on… releasing us from the shackles of our sexual repression. Or has it?
There is no doubt it has blasted open DESIRE…
… and with it conversations about sexuality and pleasure.
Thank you EL James for liberating us from the confines of sexual propriety. Thank you for bringing our deep feminine lust upfront and center.
We women are hungry for pleasure. There can no longer be any doubt about that and now we are a little less shy about it.
The 50 Shades trilogy feeds on women’s fantasies and truths.
Eternal truth #1 is that we want pleasure. We want rapture. We want to shatter and dissolve with the force of our orgasm.
All of this is true and yet I am so grateful that my daughters are too young to be a witness to any of this.
(Moms of teenage girls, I am holding a strong love beam over you at this moment in time.)
My objection has nothing (ok maybe just a very little) to do with the whips and chains and has everything to do with Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella.
I have come to realize that I am a naturalist. I trust deeply in the design of Mother Nature- her beauty, her cleverness, her remarkable often miraculous ways.
But this week, navigating the chaotic supermarkets and gas lines in anticipation of the blizzard here on the east coast, I was reminded of how Mother Nature can also inspire great fear.
It is this fear that has gripped our birthing, both here in the US and worldwide. Fear of the unknowable, the uncontrollable.
Imagine if we lived each day as if we were anticipating a crippling blizzard… imagine how that would feel- the tension, the panic, the stress. Imagine how differently we would operate-
Expectant Mamas often ask me what childbirth ed class they should take. My answer has always had to be somewhat vague- the most comprehensive one you can find where you feel philosophically aligned with the teacher.
I am a big believer in knowledge is power, but childbirth ed can be a tricky because the teacher’s angle can really define the experience as well as the information you receive.
Finally.. finally.. finally finally… there is a childbirth education program that I can wholeheartedly recommend.
Some of the women I work with aren’t pregnant yet. Some are even still waiting for the right partner to create a family with.
These women can’t wait to have that experience themselves and their desire is so strong it propels them to reach out to me, perplexed and apologetic… “I know I’m not pregnant yet, but…”
I LOOOOoooooooove working with these women. They get it.
These are women whose consciousness has been awakened and turned on to the paradigm shift that an Ecstatic Birth represents- Birthing with pleasure, power, love, and full force of your natural primal feminine beauty.
These are women who don’t want to wait… for their partner, for their pregnancy to begin integrating this into their lives.
Many of them don’t even realize how genius of a move this is and I can feel the relief in their voices as I explain to them why.
Since l began offering my 20 minute complimentary consults, I have had the privilege of speaking with quite a few women at various stages of expectant motherhood, some pregnant and others hoping to be soon.
The overwhelming majority of calls I get are from mamas who are in what I call the “eeeek” zone, late 3rd trimester and full of fear.
At such a late stage in pregnancy it may feel like it is too late to undertake any truly transformational birth preparation, but in reality there are two major shifts that can make a huge difference taking her from “eeek” to positive anticipation of her baby’s birth- disarming her fears and using pleasure as a comfort tool.