Pleasure is built into our birthing anatomy!

I’ve got some really big news!!….

As you know, I put a lot of emphasis on a woman deepening her connection to her body and sensuality.

Even though there are many many other aspects of ecstatic birth prep, a woman’s relation to her sexuality is where the physical experience of birth needs the most healing and where a woman’s pleasure potential in birth skyrockets.

Pleasure is not an indulgence, but the most powerful and holistic birthing tool there is. (tweet!)

I was recently reading this article and was blown away by the following statement regarding some recent research.

“…they measured pain thresholds during childbirth. They found a significant reduction in pain sensitivity as the baby started to emerge through the birth canal, a correlation with G-spot stimulus. They speculate that without the pain-reducing effect of vaginal stimulation, childbirth might be even more painful, and that the pain-reducing effect could lessen the stress of childbirth and thereby promote bonding between mother and newborn.”

This speaks directly to the fact that pleasure and orgasm are built into our biological birthing system. The quote talks about reducing pain, but I’d like to take it to the next level and say that our biological system encourages pleasure during birth.

Isn’t that amazing?!?! This is why I am all fired up today. Keep reading.. it gets better :)

So why why why if pleasure in birth is built into our biology, why do so many women experience pain??

There are infinite answers to this question ranging from politics, to religion, to societal and individual psychology and beyond…A woman can address each and every one of those issues and still experience pain rather than pleasure in birth.

The single most important factor that most women do not address…

…that it does not occur to them to address..

If I could teach one thing to my daughters…

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The biggest thing that I have learned from my birth experiences is how to care for myself— that putting myself and my needs first gives me the capacity to care for others.

I’ve also learned that integrating pleasure into my self care gives me the capacity to care for others with joy.

And let me tell you… as a mother I am still working on that one. I have to practice every day. I have to remind myself and enlist friends to remind me too. Consciously taking my daily dose of pleasure is a doozy in a world that devalues pleasure, that is too busy for something as frivolous as PLEASURE.

Even though I have witnessed the gifts of pleasure firsthand (and teach them to expectant women for goodness sakes).. I still have to take myself back to basics in my practice on a regular basis.

Guess who benefits the most when I am in my pleasure?

My kids!

…and pretty much everyone else who comes in my path.

This is the gift that I desperately desire to share with every expectant mother.


This is the gift I most want to pass onto my girls.

The power of pleasure.

This Mother’s day, I invite you to give yourself and the women that you love that gift.

My friend and compatriot in the world of pleasurable birth, Debra Pascali-Bonaro and I are offering a free 21 day pleasure immersion.

May Pleasures: Some Gifts for You!

The month of May is one of my favorites- warm sun, flowers, Mother’s Day, and above all my birthday and my daughter’s.

This is the little girl that I call “my personal growth tool.”  She taught me how to consciously conceive, how to call her in with the full force of my love and desire . She also taught me how to birth. It was with her that I forged another way, that I found bliss, surrender, empowerment, consciousness, and above all pleasure in birth.  She is turning 8 this month and she continues to press me beyond where I think I can go. She elevates me. I am so grateful to be her mom.

This is a month of celebration for us and in honor of that, I will be gifting a 20 minute consultation to everyone who buys the Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions this month.  I am eager to spend more time holding your hands, supporting you in your preparations to birth your babies in bliss.

I am announcing a pleasure immersion any minute now with Debra Pascali-Bonaro of Orgasmic Birth. 21 days of pleasure exercises from some of our favorite teachers.. totally free and all for the sake of pleasure! It will launch in time for Mother’s day, so we can spread the love to all the mamas we know and love. Goddess knows how much us moms need pleasure, rt?!? Make sure you join my mailing list to be kept in the loop.

Last but not least I am excited to share that my next  free training and Q&A session will be Wednesday May 14 at 1pm ET. You can sign up here to get the call-in info and send in your questions.

We are going to have fun this month!!!

When Does Birth Prep Begin?

I’m often asked the question, “When should I begin preparing for birth?” Usually, the woman is well into her pregnancy at this point, so I lay it on her gently.

As soon as you become conscious of birth prep is the time to begin. Whether you are already pregnant or dreaming of the day you will be.

Us mamas are wired to move mountains for our babies, but our babies begin as a part of us, our bodies, our emotions, our cells.So it is never early enough.

There is always more to do.

Be gentle.

Be loving.

Lean into your inner wisdom to guide you to what is essential.

Next week begins the Creating Fertile Ground Virtual Conference hosted by Xandra O’Neill of Womb to World Wellness.

Orgasms and Birth

When thinking about the idea of enjoying childbirth, there is nothing more intriguing… and hexing than the idea of an orgasmic birth. We are the children of Eve, or, at least, we have been brought up on that story. How could childbirth ever be physically pleasurable? Emotionally maybe, spiritually definitely, but physically?

If you take a moment, however, to really think about the body parts involved in birth- well, it isn’t as far of a reach as you might have thought, right?

The idea of orgasms and birth coinciding may take a bit of cultural reconditioning, but on a physical level they are quite complementary. There are two ways to think about it.

Orgasm as a birth tool.
Orgasm as a spontaneous part of the birthing process.

The first is relatively straightforward.
Orgasms can be used to jump start labor. They can be used to move a sluggish labor along. They can also, perhaps most intriguingly, be used to manage labor. How?
Orgasms are a powerful natural pain killer, more powerful than some of the strongest drugs out there. Don’t believe me? Google it. You will be flooded with all the research and stats.

The second- the idea of a spontaneous orgasmic birth is more slippery.