There are as many different ways to prepare for an Ecstatic Birth as there are women on the planet. Each woman is unique and has her own unique desires, experiences, fears and circumstances.
Connecting women to their inner wisdom is a huge part of the work that I do with my private clients. However there is one element that is completely universal, that I touch upon with every woman I work with, right away, up front and center.
The single most important factor in preparing for your birth.. is surrounding yourself with people that believe in you, your body’s wisdom, and can hold your vision for you, unequivocally.
I remember interviewing my first OB… asking her if she could support my desire to birth naturally. She said, “Of course! I will do whatever you want, but keep an open mind. Wait till you feel that first contraction…” If only I had had the wisdom, the courage, and the conviction to walk away at the moment and find someone truly aligned with my desire for a natural birth, I would have saved my body from a whole lot of trauma.
Imagine if your practitioner spoke to you about using pleasure as a holistic birthing tool? About accessing the wisdom of your body, the bliss that is always available within? Imagine if she could fully hold your vision of an Ecstatic Birth for you mind, body, and soul- even when you were doubting yourself?
“Nothing comes to this earth unless it first passes through a woman.” — Guru Nanak
This is one of my favorite quotes from the Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions, a swift reminder of the powerful and sacred portal that is childbirth.
This Mother’s Day, I’d like to celebrate in style and open up the work I do with expectant moms and with practitioners. I’d like to gift you with some free trainings.
Pick your pleasure- sign up for one or both and please share generously in the spirit of bringing more love and pleasure to all birthing moms and babies entering this planet.
Consistently, the biggest piece of advice I give women interested in Ecstatic Birth is to connect more deeply to their bodies and their sensuality.. to learn to feeeeeeel more pleasure.. to learn how to tap into that sensual energy at will.
This not only makes your physical experience of birth better, but it makes life in and out of the bedroom way better too.
There was a time long ago when I felt really whiney about my orgasms and then I met Saida Désilets who encouraged me to disconnect from any expectations and focus instead on my connection with myself.
Thus began an eye opening, mind blowing journey into what is possible.
This year my son received sex ed in his 7th grade health class for the first time. Much to his mortification, I asked him many questions about what he was being taught about the female anatomy. Unfortunately, but not surprising, while boys were taught about ejaculation and how to put on condoms, among other things, the girls only received half the story about their bodies– they learned about ovulation, periods, and pregnancy.
While they did clarify proper usage of vulva vs. vagina, the class did not even begin to name the outer and inner anatomy of the vulva. The word clitoris was never mentioned, much less the vestibular bulbs (pound for pound as much erectile tissues as men) or any conversation about the pleasure centers of the female reproductive systems.
I mentioned this to a fellow mom and she said, “most people would be happy about that.” Ouch.
When I first launched Ecstatic Birth, I wanted to support a woman like I was at the beginning of my journey.
…a woman who wanted to have an incredible birth experience, but didn’t know what that meant or where to begin.
I do attract a lot of these women, but I was always surprised to see so many of you practitioners on my list, in my programs, on my calls.
Thank you for sharing with me time and time again how much you want to integrate this with your client work. Thank you for helping me see that this was not included in any of your formal trainings, that this is as new and progressive to you as it is to the expectant mamas I work with.
I get it and I also get that if we work together we can support more women in having empowering and pleasurable births.
I want more women to know and learn and open to the possibility of birthing with pleasure, more women than I can work with one on one.
I want to enable you, who are already working with expectant mamas, to share this information, these tools, these resources with them.
Registration is now open for the 2016 Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training Program!