This week is exciting!

orgasmic birthHave you registered yet for next week’s Orgasmic Birth Virtual Conference? 

Its groundbreaking, revolutionary and 100% free..

Join me, my heroines, mentors, friends, and colleagues as we
discuss transforming pregnancy, birth, and mothering to a positive, empowering, and pleasure-full experience.

Get your complimentary pass here.

My interview goes live on Wednesday 10/15 and to support participants, I will be hosting a live Q&A session on FB and Twitter all day beginning at 12pm ET.

I hope to “see” you there.

 

I want you to know

pampered
Sweet Lady
I want you to know
with no doubt..
not even a one..
You Matter

Not for the child in your womb
(but that too yes)
Not for the work you do
(also an also)
Or any of those things that are good and righteous and transforming

Talk to me…

If you are curious about Ecstatic Birth, what it means, and if it would be possible for you, come talk to me.

If you love the idea, but would like some hand held support navigating your options,come talk to me.

If you are ready to really go for it…

…fully committed to the idea of birthing your babies in pleasure and

…are ready to plunge full heart and soul into your Ecstatic Birth prep…

Come talk to me! (I’ve got a special offering just for you)

I’ve cleared my calendar for you next week-

…to discuss your birth desires, fears, options,

…to answer any questions you may have.

and to tell you about the private training program I am currently offering.

Let’s see if it is the support you’ve been looking for. You can book a complimentary 20 minute session with me here: https://sheilakamarahay.youcanbook.me/

Pleasure is built into our birthing anatomy!

I’ve got some really big news!!….

As you know, I put a lot of emphasis on a woman deepening her connection to her body and sensuality.

Even though there are many many other aspects of ecstatic birth prep, a woman’s relation to her sexuality is where the physical experience of birth needs the most healing and where a woman’s pleasure potential in birth skyrockets.

Pleasure is not an indulgence, but the most powerful and holistic birthing tool there is. (tweet!)

I was recently reading this article and was blown away by the following statement regarding some recent research.

“…they measured pain thresholds during childbirth. They found a significant reduction in pain sensitivity as the baby started to emerge through the birth canal, a correlation with G-spot stimulus. They speculate that without the pain-reducing effect of vaginal stimulation, childbirth might be even more painful, and that the pain-reducing effect could lessen the stress of childbirth and thereby promote bonding between mother and newborn.”

This speaks directly to the fact that pleasure and orgasm are built into our biological birthing system. The quote talks about reducing pain, but I’d like to take it to the next level and say that our biological system encourages pleasure during birth.

Isn’t that amazing?!?! This is why I am all fired up today. Keep reading.. it gets better :)

So why why why if pleasure in birth is built into our biology, why do so many women experience pain??

There are infinite answers to this question ranging from politics, to religion, to societal and individual psychology and beyond…A woman can address each and every one of those issues and still experience pain rather than pleasure in birth.

The single most important factor that most women do not address…

…that it does not occur to them to address..

If I could teach one thing to my daughters…

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The biggest thing that I have learned from my birth experiences is how to care for myself— that putting myself and my needs first gives me the capacity to care for others.

I’ve also learned that integrating pleasure into my self care gives me the capacity to care for others with joy.

And let me tell you… as a mother I am still working on that one. I have to practice every day. I have to remind myself and enlist friends to remind me too. Consciously taking my daily dose of pleasure is a doozy in a world that devalues pleasure, that is too busy for something as frivolous as PLEASURE.

Even though I have witnessed the gifts of pleasure firsthand (and teach them to expectant women for goodness sakes).. I still have to take myself back to basics in my practice on a regular basis.

Guess who benefits the most when I am in my pleasure?

My kids!

…and pretty much everyone else who comes in my path.

This is the gift that I desperately desire to share with every expectant mother.


This is the gift I most want to pass onto my girls.

The power of pleasure.

This Mother’s day, I invite you to give yourself and the women that you love that gift.

My friend and compatriot in the world of pleasurable birth, Debra Pascali-Bonaro and I are offering a free 21 day pleasure immersion.