I’m getting a little tired of all this talk about how we can survive the pandemic. How about you?
Yes, survival is a basic requirement to live but I don’t want to live to just survive. I want to live to THRIVE.
The desire to THRIVE is full of implicit privilege when many people are struggling to survive. This has always been true, even in our pre-covid19 reality.
Feeling guilty about our privilege serves no one. Keeping ourselves stuck in survival mode serves no one.
I believe it is our RESPONSIBILITY to thrive and use our privilege and responsibility to create the change we want to see in the world, to bring our gifts to our children, communities and clients.
The low bar of SURVIVAL has governed our medical system in relation to childbirth for too long. Ironically, all the interventions designed to help us survive actually create WORSE outcomes, not better, when they are overused.
The women who are raising the next generation of humanity deserve better… they deserve a system that holds a higher bar, one that allows them to THRIVE.
That is not greedy or selfish or unrealistic… quite the opposite. What no one is talking about is that the very conditions that allow a birthing mom to thrive address and TRANSCEND survival.
We are deep in labor now… no one really knows how long it will last, how intense the contractions will really get, and what will be birthed through this all.
So what can we do now?
Option A: Check out.
This may work, but the agitation is still there… underneath the numbness. We may find temporary relief, but then what? From my experience, it will continue to arise with greater and greater volume until it deafens everything else in an effort to be heard… not fun.
Option B: Connect.
In Ecstatic Birth, connection is the heart of everything… preparing, laboring, accessing our deepest most primal feminine wisdom. It is through deep connection and presence that we can access unparalleled levels of Ecstasy even in our most challenging moments. I choose B.
I’m excited to share with you the Conversation to Transform Birth for this week. In many ways this woman is the embodiment and culmination of my visions for Ecstatic Birth.
Let me explain…
14 years ago I was fiercely preparing for the birth of my 2nd child learning everything I possibly could about the body and natural birth. At the same time I was chest deep in the study of PLEASURE as both a student and writer at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts in NYC.
The moment that I realized the language of sensual and orgasmic expansion and the language of natural birth were one and the same I got a full body rush of energy and I knew I was onto something BIG.