One of the many, overflowing gifts that birth has given me is a sense of my own autonomy.
Navigating my options in preparation for my first birth, I prioritized everyone’s opinions and desires over my own. That didn’t play out very well.
I experienced a birth trauma that carried over into an inability to conceive and carry a second child.
I looked everywhere for answers and I found none, until I was encouraged to look within.
I’m excited to share with you the Conversation to Transform Birth for this week. In many ways this woman is the embodiment and culmination of my visions for Ecstatic Birth.
Let me explain…
14 years ago I was fiercely preparing for the birth of my 2nd child learning everything I possibly could about the body and natural birth. At the same time I was chest deep in the study of PLEASURE as both a student and writer at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts in NYC.
The moment that I realized the language of sensual and orgasmic expansion and the language of natural birth were one and the same I got a full body rush of energy and I knew I was onto something BIG.
These days it is waaay too easy to knock my fierce warrior self to her knees.
So if you are feeling like… “PLEASURE?!?! What’s the point of PLEASURE in the midst of all that is going on….?!” I get it. I get it.
Even on the best of days it can feel like a stretch to reach for pleasure.
And in the birthing room??? Seriously?!? Amidst all the intensity.. who can think about PLEASURE?!?!
One of my favorite (and most effective tools) is literally the LAST thing I feel like doing, especially in moments of intensity: DANCE
With self-quarantine and social distancing mandates, our access to the physical is suddenly limited.
Teaching Ecstatic Birth to all kinds of practitioners, I have noticed that often there is an unnecessary boundary between energy work and body work.
While we are all quite aware that there is an interplay between our energy body and our physical body, most modalities of support focus on one or the other.
I’ve never really thought about it in quite this way before, but… Ecstatic Birth preparation integrates both. After all orgasmic energy is deeply felt in the body!
So what happens when one of your senses is suddenly restricted? You begin to develop your other senses!!
This is what is happening right now all over the planet…
These are strange and uncertain times indeed, but one thing remains steady:
Having a doula dramatically transforms and elevates your experience of birth. It has famously been said:
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.” -Dr. John Kennell
So what now with social distancing and strict limits on who can enter a hospital birthing room?
It is true now more than ever.
Virtual birth support, while not ideal, is still effective and powerful.