IGNITING YOUR FEMININE POWER!!!
Who doesn’t need more of that?!?
I’ll be talking with Jenny Braxton about this very important topic.
Jenny is a mom, birth visionary, community leader and educator AND she has dove deep with me over the past year in the Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training.
The day your baby is born is one of the most momentous days of your life. Childbirth can be one of the most transformative ecstatic experiences in a woman’s life.
Unfortunately, that is not the typical experience our society is serving up in labor and delivery. Most women emerge from childbirth in a haze, many of them unconscious victims of trauma (as I was). We accept this because that is what we are taught childbirth is meant to be, culturally, religiously, and societally. If we make the same choices as everyone around us, this is what we will usually get.
To have a different experience, a woman must be willing to make different choices, to prepare with her mind, body and soul in a different direction. Ecstatic Births are not the norm (yet) and so it requires a certain ferocity to forge a different path.
One of the questions I get asked most often when I tell people about Ecstatic Birth is-
“Can you do this with an Epidural?”
The short answer is “Yes.”
The long answer involves a discussion around consciousness and nerve endings.
Ecstasy is a state of rapture that includes emotional, physical, and spiritual components. In childbirth, this is most likely when a woman operates from a place of consciousness and empowerment.
This can definitely include the decision to allow interventions as long as a woman is making that decision from a fully informed perspective, eyes wide open and connected to her own personal truth and inner wisdom. (Like in this story about an ecstatic c-section)
I am convinced that there is one thing that every woman can do to infinitely increase her pleasure in birth (and life!) —
Learn how to melt into a rolling, endless, full body orgasm…whenever she wants.
What do orgasms and childbirth have in common? Almost everything!
- Same anatomy
- Same ideal conditions
- Same trance states
- Same hormonal cocktails released
This might seem ironic, since orgasms and birth are typically seen as opposite ends of the pain/pleasure spectrum. However, pain and pleasure travel along the same neural pathways. They are closer in sensation than you may realize.
This year I gifted myself the right to have summer vacation. It was a choice born from my anxiety, the pressure that I was putting on myself to be productive. So, just for fun, I threw it all out the window and told myself that for the summer I didn’t have to “do” and that I could just “be.”
Well, looking back, it is interesting for me to notice that it was a summer full of interesting conversations, connections, and events. Productive without a doubt (and without the pressure and anxiety.)
Being the birth junkie that I am, one of my great loves is seeing how life and birth mirror each other so fully.
Women are always asking me- how is it possible to have pleasure in childbirth? What do they have to “do” to have an ecstatic birth?
Well, truth is that there is so much that one can do to prepare…, but a whole lot of that involves learning how to be, and how to receive.
The Yin and Yang of our world is off balance. Yin, the feminine energy, the receptive energy of “being” is generally overwhelmed by Yang, the active masculine energy of “doing.”
It is the balance of the two that allows for harmony and that opens the door for pleasure.