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Love your Libido

When we think of libido we automatically think of sex, but the underlying current is life force.

Yes this enlivening energy can stir up your sexual desire, but it is also central to your wellness, vitality, and creativity.

All creation begins with DESIRE.

Desire is the first stage in the Feminine Flow of Creation

Whether your desire is leading you to conceive and birth a baby or a creative project is irrelevant, the underlying nature is the same.

Desire arises from your creative energy which is one and the same as your sexual energy, literally the energy of CREATION.

Often in planning ahead we lead with our minds, thinking about what we want (or think we should want).

While our mental rational minds are an integral part of our process, true desire lives in the BODY.

When you consider your dreams and vision for the year ahead, I invite you to notice how they FEEL in your body. 

Can you feel the excitement? The anticipation? The longing?

All of these bodily sensations emerge from the life force energy you need to support the creation of your desire. In other words, your LIBIDO.

Your libido does not exist solely so that you can have sex with others. Your libido exists for your joy, your vitality, your LIFE force. Sex is a part of that, not the end in and of itself.

This is why it is irrelevant whether you are single or partnered– tending to your sexual wellness is imperative to your health and vitality, much like eating well and exercising.

While it is natural for the libido to shift as we age, it is not normal, even with all the hormonal changes of pregnancy, postpartum and even the shift into menopause, for it to disappear. 

In fact, menopause can be a time of renewed creativity, when all your creative energy shifts from making babies and nurturing them back to yourself and your dreams and desires.

Tending to your libido is essential at every age and every stage. Aside from medical indications, low libido or the complete absence is often a symptom of underlying misalignments many of which are especially quite common in women. 

Here is a simple example of an inner misalignment: Prioritizing other people’s needs ahead of your own.

Can you relate? (I think we all do!)

These types of blocks and misalignments drain your libido, your life force, your desire for sex, and your capacity to realize your true dreams and desires.

Let’s shift that, shall we?

I offer many different avenues for you to tend to your sexual energy.

  1. Monthly sexual wellness webinars via integrative women’s health center TārāMD– A simple way to learn more about your body, dip your toe into sensual expansion, and experience a practice to support you in opening to more pleasure.
  2. Monthly Kundalini Activations. For all of us that DO too much. This is a virtual energy transmission where you come lie down, receive, and allow the energy to support you in reconnecting to your life force. This is not for you if you are pregnant, but is great postpartum or at any other stage to nourish your body and come back to yourself as a sensual being.
  3. Sensual Expansion reBirth – A comprehensive 1:1 coaching journey to reBirth your body and being in the paradigm of pleasure

Expectant moms, sexual energy is the very thing you will be flooded with in birth to support the progression of your labor and bringing your baby into your arms. I teach you how to embrace and leverage this in OBABY!, my Ecstatic Birth Training program for mothers-to-be.

I invite you to consciously tend to your sexual energy, your libido, as an integral component of tending to your life force and creativity!


Welcome! I'm Sheila Kamara Hay

I’m passionate about providing you with inspiration, practices and resources for your highest pleasure in life and birth!

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