During my daughter’s birth. I labored in a tub was rocking all my tools, presence and breath.
But then I transition hit and I was DONE.
Every fiber of my being felt like…”I just can’t do this anymore!”
I began to actively resist the contractions.
My doula brought her face close to mine and said, “Sheila, look into my eyes and breathe with me.”
I surrendered into her calm loving presence and with her breath, it felt like she carried me through to the other side where I was ready to push.
Could I have made it through anyway?
For sure.. but it would have been excruciating and exhausting.
With her gaze and presence, everything in me relaxed and the intensity washed over me.
If you didn’t have the birth you’d hoped for…
If you worry about how a “negative” birth experience has imprinted your child,
If you didn’t know about Ecstatic Birth when you were having kids, but now you do and feel any twinge of regret, you will want to watch this!
Fall… back to school.. re-entry into our new masked world…
This time of year always feels like a new beginning, but now more so than ever.
Fresh starts are a period of conscious creation.
A time to feel into and honor our DESIRE.
What is true for you now?
Where do you want to go?
Our brains are whirring with thoughts of the future.. what is going to happen?
With the pandemic? With the election? With schools? With racism? With hospitals?
With birth… with_________???
Couldn’t we all use some nourishment and healing at this moment in time?
When so much is at stake it can feel counterproductive to take pause and drop in, but that is precisely the medicine of this time.
Rituals can offer us a potent portal as we navigate the waves of our life.
Rituals help us access our somatic and primal brains and with it our deeper truths and knowings.
I want you to meet one of the many exceptional guest teachers in the Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training, Sokhna Heathyre Mabin.
A leading edge visionary of sacred fertility and creativity, Sokhna is a woman who stands for all women, for mothers, for babies, for LIFE.
As a doula of color, and one developing doula programs for her community, Sokhna intimately understands the challenges black women face in the birthing room and what long term solutions look like, solutions that include:
I’m excited to share with you the Conversation to Transform Birth for this week. In many ways this woman is the embodiment and culmination of my visions for Ecstatic Birth.
Let me explain…
14 years ago I was fiercely preparing for the birth of my 2nd child learning everything I possibly could about the body and natural birth. At the same time I was chest deep in the study of PLEASURE as both a student and writer at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts in NYC.
The moment that I realized the language of sensual and orgasmic expansion and the language of natural birth were one and the same I got a full body rush of energy and I knew I was onto something BIG.
With self-quarantine and social distancing mandates, our access to the physical is suddenly limited.
Teaching Ecstatic Birth to all kinds of practitioners, I have noticed that often there is an unnecessary boundary between energy work and body work.
While we are all quite aware that there is an interplay between our energy body and our physical body, most modalities of support focus on one or the other.
I’ve never really thought about it in quite this way before, but… Ecstatic Birth preparation integrates both. After all orgasmic energy is deeply felt in the body!
So what happens when one of your senses is suddenly restricted? You begin to develop your other senses!!
This is what is happening right now all over the planet…
There is something that deeply troubles me about our legacy….
That moment when a baby is born and a mother emerges is magical, sacred.. POWERFUL.. The highest of highs. Right?
On a personal level, for both parents, it is one of the major milestones of life. For the baby, it is literally LIFE itself.
On a global level, this moment ushers in the next generation of humanity.
It is DIVINE- the moment creation is actualized.
The FUTURE is literally being BORN.
A pivotal EXTRAordinary moment on the planet…
and yet our legacy declares that THIS is the moment that we will PUNISH WOMEN FOR THEIR SINS AGAINST MAN.
As birthworkers we know deep in our souls that birth is a sacred and profound rite of passage in a woman’s life complete with the potential for joy, empowerment, transformation and ECSTASY.
However, the reality of what we witness every day from inside and outside the birthing rooms is quite different.
It can be exhausting to hold the vision for the highest version of birth as you know it and support women in a climate that often feels like a direct contrast.
If you are a birthworker passionate to elevate the experience of birth for your clients and the world at large, I’d like to invite you to a unique and complementary online training to support you in your mission:
Pain to PLEASURE: Supporting Women in Ecstatic Birth
As the idea of Ecstatic Birth (and its Orgasmic soul sister) becomes more widespread, demand is rising for practitioners that can support expectant moms in these modalities.
If you have been working as a birth practitioner you have likely witnessed a wide variety of births– ones that make your heart sing and others that may have made your heart ache. You know that there is no way to ensure any specific outcome in birth- that is a co-creation between the mom, the baby and the divine. However, the difference between a birth that feels traumatic as opposed to ecstatic is rarely in the specific details, but in how a birthing mom processes the experience.
Practitioners, you stand at the doorway of this very sacred rite of passage, and you have a magnificent opportunity to elevate the experience of every woman you work with. I’ve put together some of the most essential factors to consider in your prenatal and birth work.