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The Feminine Cycle of Creation

In Ecstatic Birthing for Goddesses, we take the feminine cycle of creation, the journey of conception through pregnancy, labor and delivery as it relates to our METAPHORICAL babies.

Collectively we will focus on one stage each month during our live calls, learning how to identify and diffuse common obstacles and practicing tools of pleasure to support your flow through moments of intensity unique to that stage.

During the private sessions, the focus is wholly on what YOU are creating, identifying your unique spot in the feminine cycle and exploring practices to infuse your journey with pleasure while supporting your process.

Our exploration will always bring us back to the body and how to locate and expand the flow of ecstasy within!

Having “the DREAM”

This is a pivotal moment in your life.

You have never been in this exact position before.. preparing for this birth of this baby.

Yet… you have been here before. You know this feeling.

You have been faced with the inner struggle of knowing what you really want and being afraid you can’t have it.

What if you fail? What if what has worked for other women won’t work for you? What if it’s just too good to be true?

The View from the Other Side

I’d like to introduce you to Ekaterina Baranova, a doula and childbirth educator, who just completed her first round of the Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training Program (graduates are able to repeat the training as often as they are inspired).

Ekaterina has spent the last year immersed in the content, practice and community of PLEASURE, actively contemplating and practicing bringing it into the world of birth.

You will see, from the blog she has written here, so many of the different pieces I’ve highlighted at play:

The tools and practices you can bring into birth to have more fun, and support the flow of labor and delivery
The invaluable nature of being immersed in a like-minded community
The elevation of consciousness about the body and the interconnected nature of life, birth and sex
Opening to the flow of pleasure within via the body practices
The shift from thinking states to FEELING states to tap into our intuitive and primal nature
The power of being present in the body
The transformation in supporting others from being draining to nourishing
Bringing everything you learn in this training into the world with your unique flavor
Elevating the birthing culture through your pleasure

And so much more..  I’ll let her tell you herself!

Childbirth is Different Now

The full anatomy of the clitoris wasn’t explored until 1998 with discoveries emerging as recently as 2005. Our understanding of this misunderstood part of our feminine selves is less than 20 years old.Can you see what this means?

Can you see what this means?

Not a single childbearing woman today in the US had access to truly understanding the depth and breadth of her pleasure anatomy when she was growing up.

The point, ladies, is that even though women have been birthing since the beginning of time, the landscape is now completely different.  The consciousness you grew up with which did not value your experience or your pleasure or the role of pleasure in your sexual birthing body is OUTDATED.

We know more about the clitoris now than ever before and here is the crux of it– it is not a “bonus” or side show in any way, a little button to play with for kicks.

It is an integral part of our female reproductive anatomy that goes DEEP into and surrounds our feminine centers. This has MASSIVE repercussions for childbirth that begin with this simple idea:

Pleasure is not a reward for a job well done, but a vital component of doing a something well.

Most women have no concept that pleasure isn’t just a possible “bonus” in the birthing process (or even that!), but that it is actually an integral part…

At a time, when Lamaze International reports less women than ever before are taking childbirth ed…. it is MOST critical and GAME CHANGING.

Never before have there been SO MANY opportunities to raise your consciousness and learn about the glory and pleasure and ecstasy available to you in your body during birth or otherwise!

The Most Holistic Birthing Tool

How can we support a birth to progress with as much ease as possible?

There are many many tools an expectant mama and her support team can use. On the natural side- movement, massage and water can be incredibly supportive of the progression of labor.

Right now, I want to focus on how you can best holistically support the natural process of birth with PLEASURE.

You read that right. Pleasure.

Pleasure is the most holistic birthing tool there is.

How is that possible when 90% of women associate birth with pain? Well, your birthing body and your sexual body are one and the same.

Top Ten Reasons Women Birth in Pain (rather than pleasure)

“Why do most people tend to birth in pain rather than in pleasure?”

This is the question I am asked most often when I share about Ecstatic Birth. There isn’t just one answer to this, but a whole host of answers.

I’ve compiled what I see as the top 10 major factors women birth in pain as opposed to pleasure.

Some of them may surprise you…

10. It is our religious inheritance. Remember when Eve took a bite of that apple in the Garden of Eden? Womankind’s punishment for her sin was to suffer through childbirth. To birth any other way would be blasphemous.adam and eve

9. It is our cultural inheritance. Look at all the messages around us- How does the media depict birth? How do the moms around you talk about birth? Overwhelmingly our cultural messages reinforce the idea that birth hurts. Women who have had alternate experiences are often ashamed to speak up and if they do, risked being ostracized or outcast, especially if they speak of experiencing pleasure during birth.

8. We are stuck in our heads. In modern society, our bodies are primarily a means to get our heads from place to place. Mental, rational intelligence is valued above all others and yet you can’t think your way through birth. Birth is a primal full body experience. We must be able to let go of rational thought and get fully into our bodies, feeling each sensation, and be guided by its wisdom.

7. We don’t trust our bodies. In this age of cancer there is an underlying current of fear that our bodies will betray us despite our best intentions. Our bodies seem do things we can’t control and don’t understand yet this is all a symptom of our grand disconnect from ourselves. Our bodies are so wise. They hold primal wisdom, generational wisdom, experiential wisdom, all in addition to our mental rational wisdom. If we can learn to listen and honor that it would change everything.

Are you hungry for more pleasure?

Amplify Your Sensuality Consistently, the biggest piece of advice I give women interested in Ecstatic Birth is to connect more deeply to their bodies and their sensuality.. to learn to feeeeeeel more pleasure.. to learn how to tap into that sensual energy at will.

This not only makes your physical experience of birth better, but it makes life in and out of the bedroom way better too.

There was a time long ago when I felt really whiney about my orgasms and then I met Saida Désilets who encouraged me to disconnect from any expectations and focus instead on my connection with myself.

Thus began an eye opening, mind blowing journey into what is possible.

How to Melt into Your Sensuality to Prepare for an Ecstatic Birth

Sensuality is a powerful tool women can use to enhance their experience during labor and birth. Melting into her sensual nature allows a birthing woman to fully relax, stay present, and enjoy the process of labor and delivery.

Giving birth is the culmination of the sexual act. You birth with all of your sexual organs, stimulating and flooding them with sensation. Childbirth at its best also mirrors the trance states of arousal and orgasm. Melting into her sensuality heightens a woman’s experience of pleasure during childbirth, much like it does during sex.

Sensuality at its essence is a practice, a way of experiencing life. What if you were to treat your birth like the sensual ride of your life? What would that mean? What would your birth prep look like? Read on to learn specifically about sensuality as an aspect of preparation for an Ecstatic Birth.

How does your Qi flow?

This week on the blog I am excited to introduce you to a very special woman, Dr. Peta Elmer. I met Peta a few years back when she joined me for my sensual expansion study group and then took the leap with me when I launched my first ever Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training.

Peta practices Chinese medicine in Australia and is as passionate about supporting women in pleasurable birth as I am. She is actively involved in our budding community of Ecstatic Birth practitioners (graduates are invited back into subsequent trainings each year) and consistently brings amazing insights into our work and training.

One of the most remarkable aspects of my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training is the unique zones of genius each woman brings forth, building and expanding our collective wisdom around Ecstatic Birth.

(Birthworkers, click here for more info and to join my Ecstatic Birth Practitioner Training beginning June 13th.)

In this blog post, Peta illustrates how the constriction of sexual energy throughout a woman’s life is a root cause of the sensation of pain in birth and shares several suggestions on how to support the flow of Qi for pleasurable birthing.

It is an honor to share her wisdom with you! Enjoy her as I do…

The Missing Link

This year my son received sex ed in his 7th grade health class for the first time. Much to his mortification, I asked him many questions about what he was being taught about the female anatomy. Unfortunately, but not surprising, while boys were taught about ejaculation and how to put on condoms, among other things, the girls only received half the story about their bodies– they learned about ovulation, periods, and pregnancy.

While they did clarify proper usage of vulva vs. vagina, the class did not even begin to name the outer and inner anatomy of the vulva. The word clitoris was never mentioned, much less the vestibular bulbs (pound for pound as much erectile tissues as men) or any conversation about the pleasure centers of the female reproductive systems.

I mentioned this to a fellow mom and she said, “most people would be happy about that.” Ouch.