15 years ago when I was fiercely preparing for my “reclamation” birth, reading everything I could, practicing, learning…
I came across Laura Shanley and wow was my world turned inside out and upside down.
Laura is one of the leaders in the unassisted childbirth movement.
While, unassisted birth is not something I am particularly drawn to, it struck me then–
How can a woman feel SO confident in her body and her ability to birth…
How is it possible to clear ALL (or enough) of your fears,
…to be able to confidently choose an unassisted birth??
You may think everything needs to be perfect in order to have an Ecstatic Birth– a loving partner, the perfect birth environment, unwavering support.
This Conversation to Transform Birth with new mom Anysa Olivera shows that you can transcend ANYTHING if you have prepared with consciousness and commitment.
She had the rug pulled out from her at 35 weeks, losing her partner of 10 years AND she birthed during the height of the pandemic.
Despite all this she was able to drop in deep for her daughter’s birth.
“I made love to myself in the early hours of my birth, moved slowly and intentionally through my rushes and was surrounded by things that brought me pleasure.
I was in my body.
I was deeply human and animal tethered to this earth plane in no way I had ever been before.
I laughed and was joyful; I was empty and full.
I was lucid and when the time finally came to push my daughter, the ring of fire burned. I met the fire with pleasure as I pushed.
As I knew pushing her head was the climax of my birth journey, in the restful period I was in absolute pleasure.
I even recall looking up at all of the beautiful women around me and saying, “Ladies I feel soooo gooood!
“It was exactly what I had dreamed of.”
Watch the full interview and discover how, “Against All Odds”, she was able to experience such Ecstasy in Birth.
Childbirth can be intense but that does not mean it has to be painful.
Have you ever experienced intense euphoria?
An intense orgasm?
Or an intense moment of deep spiritual connection?
The intensity has to do with the amount of energy pulsating through your body, not the type of sensation you experience.
Did you know that your sense of smell gives you direct access to your primal brain?
This is such an important thing to know because so much of our sense of safety and our relationship to our sexuality is embedded and governed by our primal brain.
CHILDBIRTH, at its best, is wholly governed by the primal brain.
Once you know this delightful fact about the connection between scent and your primal brain, you can use it consciously in birth to access and create the conditions to support the optimal flow of labor: safety, surrender, love, PLEASURE!
Fall… back to school.. re-entry into our new masked world…
This time of year always feels like a new beginning, but now more so than ever.
Fresh starts are a period of conscious creation.
A time to feel into and honor our DESIRE.
What is true for you now?
Where do you want to go?
Last night I was cuddling in bed with my daughters, my heart expanding and aching with my love for them.
Calling them into my life was one of the most transformative journeys I have ever taken and it continues to this day.
Ever notice how your pulsating LOVE for another presses you to grow beyond your own edges?
My desires for my children take me into realms I would never venture into for myself.
I’m excited to share with you the Conversation to Transform Birth for this week. In many ways this woman is the embodiment and culmination of my visions for Ecstatic Birth.
Let me explain…
14 years ago I was fiercely preparing for the birth of my 2nd child learning everything I possibly could about the body and natural birth. At the same time I was chest deep in the study of PLEASURE as both a student and writer at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts in NYC.
The moment that I realized the language of sensual and orgasmic expansion and the language of natural birth were one and the same I got a full body rush of energy and I knew I was onto something BIG.
These days it is waaay too easy to knock my fierce warrior self to her knees.
So if you are feeling like… “PLEASURE?!?! What’s the point of PLEASURE in the midst of all that is going on….?!” I get it. I get it.
Even on the best of days it can feel like a stretch to reach for pleasure.
And in the birthing room??? Seriously?!? Amidst all the intensity.. who can think about PLEASURE?!?!
One of my favorite (and most effective tools) is literally the LAST thing I feel like doing, especially in moments of intensity: DANCE
With self-quarantine and social distancing mandates, our access to the physical is suddenly limited.
Teaching Ecstatic Birth to all kinds of practitioners, I have noticed that often there is an unnecessary boundary between energy work and body work.
While we are all quite aware that there is an interplay between our energy body and our physical body, most modalities of support focus on one or the other.
I’ve never really thought about it in quite this way before, but… Ecstatic Birth preparation integrates both. After all orgasmic energy is deeply felt in the body!
So what happens when one of your senses is suddenly restricted? You begin to develop your other senses!!
This is what is happening right now all over the planet…
A BIRTH STORY YOU WON’T WANT TO MISS
This morning I’m feeling ECSTASY pulsing through my body.
In this spot, of PURE PLEASURE of I am most vibrantly ME.
I am talking with a soul sister from across the globe, to present her birth story.
This is A BIRTH STORY YOU WON’T WANT TO MISS!
AND this is right at the core of why I am feeling so ECSTATIC.
I’m having the conversations I am most interested in having– the very conversations that have the potential to transform birth across the planet.