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Against All Odds: An Ecstatic Birth

You may think everything needs to be perfect in order to have an Ecstatic Birth– a loving partner, the perfect birth environment, unwavering support. 

This Conversation to Transform Birth with new mom Anysa Olivera shows that you can transcend ANYTHING if you have prepared with consciousness and commitment.

She had the rug pulled out from her at 35 weeks, losing her partner of 10 years AND she birthed during the height of the pandemic.

Despite all this she was able to drop in deep for her daughter’s birth.

She shares–

“I made love to myself in the early hours of my birth, moved slowly and intentionally through my rushes and was surrounded by things that brought me pleasure.

I was in my body.

I was deeply human and animal tethered to this earth plane in no way I had ever been before.

I laughed and was joyful; I was empty and full.

I was lucid and when the time finally came to push my daughter, the ring of fire burned. I met the fire with pleasure as I pushed.

As I knew pushing her head was the climax of my birth journey, in the restful period I was in absolute pleasure.

I even recall looking up at all of the beautiful women around me and saying, “Ladies I feel soooo gooood!

“It was exactly what I had dreamed of.”  

Watch the full interview and discover how, “Against All Odds”, she was able to experience such Ecstasy in Birth.

Autonomy and Immunity

One of the many, overflowing gifts that birth has given me is a sense of my own autonomy.

Navigating my options in preparation for my first birth, I prioritized everyone’s opinions and desires over my own. That didn’t play out very well.

I experienced a birth trauma that carried over into an inability to conceive and carry a second child.

I looked everywhere for answers and I found none, until I was encouraged to look within.

Activating the MAGIC of the Body

Our bodies are incredible.

They are the source of so much wisdom, power and PLEASURE.

But we live in a culture that distrusts the body, that fears its betrayal.

TRUSTING OUR BODIES is an essential piece of feminine reclamation and is imperative in childbirth.

Transforming your Birth Biz with PLEASURE

Just like we were NEVER told that pleasure is an essential part of the birthing process, many of us weren’t trained in consciously using pleasure to support our business.

Instead we are taught to prioritize marketing strategies and industry best practices, things that are dictated by outside sources.

Orgasms and Birth

When thinking about the idea of enjoying childbirth, there is nothing more intriguing… and hexing than the idea of an orgasmic birth. We are the children of Eve, or, at least, we have been brought up on that story. How could childbirth ever be physically pleasurable? Emotionally maybe, spiritually definitely, but physically?

If you take a moment, however, to really think about the body parts involved in birth- well, it isn’t as far of a reach as you might have thought, right?

The idea of orgasms and birth coinciding may take a bit of cultural reconditioning, but on a physical level they are quite complementary. There are two ways to think about it.

Orgasm as a birth tool.
Orgasm as a spontaneous part of the birthing process.

The first is relatively straightforward.
Orgasms can be used to jump start labor. They can be used to move a sluggish labor along. They can also, perhaps most intriguingly, be used to manage labor. How?
Orgasms are a powerful natural pain killer, more powerful than some of the strongest drugs out there. Don’t believe me? Google it. You will be flooded with all the research and stats.

The second- the idea of a spontaneous orgasmic birth is more slippery.

Train for Pleasure

Pregnancy was an incredible, awe-inspiring experience for me.

I loved that my body was gestating a new life. I loved that it knew what to do, that it was tapping into a primal template and that I had to do very little in conscious support.

Pregnancy was an incredible, awe-inspiring experience for me.

I loved that my body was gestating a new life. I loved that it knew what to do, that it was tapping into a primal template and that I had to do very little in conscious support.

I wanted to feel that same sense of super-humaness with my birth experience. To feel that primal force move through my body and guide it to birth. The problem was, short of taking a natural childbirth class, I didn’t know how to prepare for that.

I had no idea about optimal birthing conditions.

I underestimated the role of support.

I misunderstood the degree of surrender required.

I was in the dark about the landscape of hospital vs. homebirth.

I didn’t know how to connect to my body and its wisdom.

I had no clue pleasure even had a place at the table of birth.

What is so sexy about birth???

Recently, I was telling a friend about Ecstatic birth and I noticed that she had a dubious look on her face.
When I questioned her she asked- “So, you’re trying to teach women that they can ENJOY childbirth?”
Yes. I nodded, smiling. She shook her head condescendingly. “Well, that’s an oxymoron.”

Her reaction is totally understandable, given our cultural messages around birth, the endless TV shows depicting a birthing woman as a shrieking object waiting to be rescued by the doctor or drugs. Given the medicalization of birth, women are more likely to be trading birth war stories, than sharing tales of birth as a pleasurable empowering experience.

I’m totally thrilled to announce that things are changing.

I need your help, BIRTH needs your help!!

My first birth left me wounded. Unable to sit and stand properly for days. I was emotionally dazed for over a year, only to be awakened by loss- miscarriage, after miscarriage. I was so dazed that it took deep grief, a sledgehammer over my head, to wake me. Fast forward to me, pregnant, fully healed body AND SOUL from the trauma of that first birth, I knew this birth had to be different. I could not be passive (again) and hope for the best. This birth was an invitation for me to embody my power, to mother myself, and my baby with all of my feminine ferocity. I was so terrified. How could I begin?

This ain’t no head trip!

When was the last time you stopped to think about what was next on your to-do list? If you are like most of us, it was probably just a few seconds ago.

But when was the last time you stopped to consult with your body, to feel what you were going to do next. If you are like most of us, you are probably thinking, “Ummm… I don’t remember.” (or Ummm….never!)

There are no two ways about it. We live in our heads. Even those of us that know, in our heads, that our body contains a whole lot of wisdom, forget to go there looking for it. And even when we do, chances are we aren’t quite sure we understand it, or believe it. I know I personally struggle with this all the time.

Childbirth is a full throttle body trip. We can use our heads to prepare, fill it with all kinds of information to empower us, help us relax, but when it comes down to it we need to be able to surrender ourselves over to our bodies. Raw. Primal. Body trip.

That can be pretty scary if you aren’t used to handing over the reins and it isn’t the sort of thing you can just order your mind to do. It is the sort of thing that takes practice and as we know, practice takes time.

My Wish for You…

We have just birthed a new year and with it a sense of freshness, a clean slate. Each new page gives us the opportunity to create, to birth anew. What is it that you long to birth this year?

Birthing any creative project is not so different from birthing a child. We can labor in the current cultural paradigm of “no pain no gain,” or we can take a stand for something different. We can consciously choose to birth our babies, real or ethereal, in pleasure.

This past year was the year I birthed my business and the Foundation Series- a beautiful baby that was bigger than I had even imagined. This was the first time that I actively brought my birthing consciousness to something other than birthing my own three children. As I wrote about previously, this launch offered me the opportunity to walk my talk and truly explore all the parallels between a live birth and a metaphorical one.

On the day of the launch, I experienced an intensity of emotion and list of to-dos that would have completely frozen my rational mind. But I had prepared for pleasure.